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The endless wait for something to change

If you know what needs to change, what are you waiting for?

I say that flippantly because I know how hard it is to make big changes. There are things I’ve put on hold for years – important things, inevitable things.

We tell ourselves that we can’t change the job we’re unhappy in until we’ve got a new qualification, or until we get that promotion, or we’ll just wait a bit longer to see if things improve. Or we convince ourselves we can’t leave this relationship because it’s his birthday next month, or we have that holiday coming up, or it’s the anniversary of his great aunt’s death…or, whatever.

The truth is, we don’t make important changes because we’re afraid of them – change is challenging and unpredictable. But the problem with waiting to change is that we stay stuck in a scenario that we know isn’t where we want to be. And time isn’t waiting for you to make your decision.

Over, the years, while I’ve procrastinated over some decisions (usually because they impact other people too), I’ve also had a propensity to be quite impulsive at times. We think of impulsivity as a reckless trait, but you’ve probably been semi-consciously processing that ‘aha moment’ for ages. When I haven’t waited, when I’ve jumped in headfirst and gone with what my instinct tells me to do, it’s been scary, riddled with complications and sometimes, on the surface at least, a bit mad! But in the long term, almost all of those seemingly bonkers decisions have worked out ok in the end - they’ve taken me out of my comfort zone, into wonderful uncharted territory and these changes are gradually helping me to get where I want to be.

I was stuck for too long, and the freedom to make choices that work for us is our greatest gift.

𝗜𝘀 𝗡𝗢𝗪 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿?

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